The Graceful Host

Wedding Inspiration: Vivid Love

Y'all know how much I love a bright color palette. Well, can you image how excited I am for Taylor and Kyle's sunny, citrus-inspired wedding full of beautiful yellows, oranges, pinks, mints and greys?!  The vivid colors fit Taylor to a tee - this girl is about a sweet as honey and can light up any room. We've been having so much fun planning for her May wedding at Byron's South End, and I want to share a bit of our inspiration with you!  Our bride's style is clean and classic, but with a funky twist.  So, we're pulling in some unique and fun details to mimic their lighthearted personalities. I just love these two, and cannot wait to see everything come together in a few short months!

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XO,
A.

Bliss + Bespoke Retreat: Recap

A few weeks ago, I attended an amazing retreat called Bliss and Bespoke in beautiful Charleston, South Carolina.  I stumbled upon this retreat after seeing a post on Instagram. The power of social media, y'all.  I clicked to find more information and was sold immediately! I knew this was just the kind of thing I needed to push my business to the next level.  I jumped at the opportunity to learn from amazing women that I've long admired and looked up to (like Joy Thigpen, Jacin Fitzgerald, Tara Guerard, Leila Lewis), and to have the chance to surround myself with a community of wedding planners from all over the country.  Bliss and Bespoke was more than I could have ever imagined - and just what I needed! Though there were many takeaways from the entire week and all the incredible speakers, a biggie that resonated  loudly with me was the challenge to identifying your core. Why do you do this job? What do you love about it? What are you passionate about? What do you value? Honestly, you don't have to be a wedding planner to use your core values to drive you toward success. Even brides and grooms could use this way of thinking when starting to plan for their wedding day! I realized (or, should say, have started to realize) what core values are within my business, and what gives me so much excitement about weddings.  And, I'm a little shocked at how simple it is - I want to see others happy. Everything I was exploring kept coming back to happiness and joy.  I truly do love this job.  Sure, it's fun to go to tastings with couples, to pick out centerpieces and design floor plans. But, there are a lot (like a lot, a lot, a lot) of things that go on behind the scenes - and, truth be told, most of these tasks are not so glamorous and not so fun.  But, to see a bride get excited about her design plan, or a groom melt over the perfect cake flavor, or a couple laughing and dancing so carefree on their wedding day…. it all comes back to joy, and everything leading up to that point was 1,000,000% (x's infinity!) worth it.  My "why" is my clients.  And, that is exactly why attending a retreat like Bliss and Bespoke was important to me - so that I can truly give my couples the best experience possible, and to keep my passion for this industry burning brighter than ever.

I want to share just a few photos (from my trusty iPhone, of course) from this incredible experience.  I'm going to call this Part One of my recap because these photos just don't do Bliss and Bespoke justice!  Everything was executed perfectly by an amazing little power duo - Katie and Betsy.  I cannot even begin to thanks these two ladies enough for giving me the opportunity of a lifetime!  Words really cannot even begin to express my gratitude and appreciation for the opportunity to reignite a passion within me to focus on what matters most and bring that passion to my brides and grooms.  I've come back and jumped into work energized, inspired and ready to create beautiful weddings.  And, now, I also have a whole new network of friends that truly amaze me.

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I can't wait to share more from this experience - as well as some actual professional photos from the oh so talented Caroline Lima and KT Merry!

XO,
A.

Engaged: Breeze + Montell

These two … Oh, my heart just melts looking at these sweet photos by Lauren Rosenau Photography.  The bride, Emily "Breeze", is an amazing personal trainer and owns a great yoga studio in Charlotte, Moga Charlotte, and the groom, William "Montell", is a former college athlete.  When Breeze and I first met, I instantly knew we were a great match.  (Plus, this girl competes in Crossfit - she's like my idol!)  Every single meeting  is full of laughter and full of OMG moments - I can't get enough of her!  She's laid back, absolutely hysterical, and one of the most genuine brides I've ever had the pleasure of knowing.  I'm so excited about our plans for her and Montell's big day, but for now, I want to share with you their beautiful engagement session, which was featured in the latest issue of Charlotte Wedding magazine in "Love on Location"! These photos are without a doubt a perfect representation of their love.  I cannot get enough of these two!

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Sorry y'all, but I had to point this out... holy moly!  Hello calves! Hard work and dedication gets you incredible legs! 

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And these last few are my absolute favorite! I just love their love! 
 

XO,
A.

All Eyes on the Bride: Wedding Day Hair + Makeup

This post is part of a series of real questions, from real brides.  Do you have a question about wedding planning, or any part of the process? Ask me! I want to answer YOUR questions. To submit your questions, email me at ashley@gracefulhost.com.

Question: What do I need to know about wedding day hair and makeup? Is there something special that I need to do to prepare for the big day?

There is a whole lot of planning that goes into a wedding day.  And as a bride, I'm sure you're very much aware of your ever growing to-do list.  But, as you're carefully planning every last detail for your big day, it's important not to overlook a big part of your wedding - hair and makeup!  On the biggest day of your life, you want to look your best.  So, leave the beauty prep to a professional!  I've asked the oh-so-talented Kymm McLean from Who's The Fairest? to weigh in on some frequently asked bridal beauty questions.

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1. What's your biggest advice to brides regarding a wedding beauty regimen? Keep it simple and don't stray from your regular routine. Definitely don't try anything new the week of your wedding! Unless you've tried it before and had good results, don't try it the week of your wedding - especially the day before your wedding. This includes waxing, facials, microdermabrasion, new cosmetic brands, new hair stylist, tanning, and many more. Anything that could potentially end in error, should be avoided.

2. The bride wakes up on her wedding day with a huge zit! Yikes! What's your recommendation to girls that have breakouts as the wedding day approaches and/or on the big day? A pimple is usually the result of excess oil getting trapped in the pore; however it can also be caused by hormonal imbalances caused by stress.  Since a pimple is just one little small area, there is no need to treat your entire face with strong products or medication. The best treatment is a spot treatment product for that one area: Boo Boo Zap!, Yes To TomatoesAcne Free are some great options.  You can also go by a medi-spa and get it "zapped" with a high frequency implement - don't worry, it's painless and takes only seconds - which will help speed up the drying/healing process.

3. What beauty service(s) should every bride absolutely, without exception, have on her wedding day? Certainly, makeup and hair.  Unless the brides hair is very short or naturally very curly and she is wearing it naturally.

4. What do you recommend all brides should do the morning of their wedding? The bride wakes up and then what are the first few things she should do before starting to get ready? Stick to your normal routine.  There is peace in familiarity, and feeling normal on your wedding day is important to keep the stress level at a minimum.  And, if bride had a little too much fun the night before, then hydrating is key.  Don't forget to eat breakfast and lunch - eating as well is important.  I see a lot of brides with nervous stomachs so keeping an antacid handy is also a great idea.

5. What is airbrush makeup? Do recommend this for bridal makeup? Airbrushing makeup is formulated to spray through a gun that sprays in tiny micronized droplets.  It "lays" on the skin, so it accentuates fine hairs, texture and pores.  And when your skin moves, it tends to "crackle" since the formulations tend to have a shellac finish to them. The product itself is very expensive with a very short shelf life, so once they expire, it separates and smells rotten. The airbrush machines are loud, bulky and difficult to transport, too.  They often clog which is a disaster because it takes a lot of time to disassemble them to clean and put back together.  (Precious time not available during a wedding beauty session.)  Also, the foundation may be self setting but you still need to set with a finishing powder to get a matte finish for photos - so what's the point of airbrushing?  You can't spray the eyes or lips so you still have to transport and apply traditional makeup, so again, what's the point?  I find it much more effective to apply a foundation with a brush and buff it into the skin so it looks like a part of the natural finish, and then setting with powder for a beautiful velvet finish.

6. What's something you wish all brides knew about wedding/bridal hair and/or makeup? Brides should book hair and makeup with a professional that schedules a practice session, so on the actual day, there are no surprises.  Aside from this, it's important that the bride work with someone that listens to her and finds out her daily makeup routine, her lifestyle and her exceptions on wedding day.  And, that professional should be able to incorporate those aspects while also achieving a style that photographs beautifully, lasts all day and night, and most importantly - makes the bride feel like she looks like herself, but just a bit more glamorous!

Thank you so much, Amanda, for the great question! Do you have a question about wedding planning that you’d like answered?  Email your question to ashley@gracefulhost.com.

XO,
A.

Engaged: Adriana + Terrell

I absolutely adore everything about this engagement session for Adriana and Terrell by the incredibly talented Richard Israel.  Engagement sessions are beautiful by nature, but when the bride is a model? Oh my goodness. Seriously, I just can't get over these photos!  It looks more like an editorial spread than an engagement session, but that's what I love about this couple! Their laid back style, how they're not afraid of doing something different, and their complete head-over-heels love for each other. Not only is Adriana an incredibly beautiful model, but she is such a sweetheart.  We are in the middle of designing her August wedding at Daniel Stowe Botanical Garden - and having SO much fun planning each detail!  I love how important guest experience is to this couple - we clicked instantly, and I cannot wait for their big day!

Get ready to be wowed, y'all!

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Seriously stunning.

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Oh. My. Gosh! Y'all! How amazing are these two?! I'm completely obsessed with the last two photos.

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Congratulations, Adriana and Terrell!

XO, A.

Engaged: Mia + Alex

These two are really, really sweet.  And, their December engagement session at Freedom Park with Lauren Rosenau Photography captures their adorable love perfectly!  Mia and Alex met in the Queen City, but a residency at John Hopkins for Mia sent them just north to Baltimore, Maryland.  They'll be coming home to get married in the city where they fell in love - you may remember our inspiration for their romantic garden wedding - and we cannot wait until April!  Cuddle up with your special someone, and spend some time with these two love birds.

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XO,
A

A Year in Review: 2013

2013 can only be described a whirlwind year.  From tons of gorgeous brides to beautiful details to magazine inspiration shoots, this year was one for the books! I am so incredibly humbled and in awe over 2013. In 2012, I took a leap. A big leap. Prior to owning TGH, I was actually an employee of TGH. I met the amazingly talented Heather Gear in 2010, who hired me part time to help with the execution of weddings. Meanwhile, I was working in corporate communications for a healthcare company in Charlotte, and I was planning for my own wedding in New Orleans!  Juggling two jobs and working 7 days a week isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but I was so in love with producing weddings with Heather that it didn’t feel like a job – it was so much fun! Eventually, we started to collaborate on design concepts, and I was began to get a better picture for the Charlotte wedding industry through various networking events.  But, in 2012, Heather had something big to tell me – a total game changer that I would’ve never seen coming – she told me that she was no longer accepting brides for 2013 because she was planning to “retire”, and that she’d like to give TGH to me.  If I remember correctly, I think it took a few minutes for me to pick up my jaw and process what she had just said. And, as they say, the rest is history. On December 31, 2012, the day of our last wedding together– a fabulous New Years Eve wedding at the Ballantyne Hotel – I officially took over ownership of The Graceful Host.  Which I now realize was the dream job I never even imagined.

You know the saying “If you want to see God laugh, tell him your plans”?  Well, I bet he had a giant laugh over my life plans.  If you would’ve asked me 10 years ago where I’d be at this point in my life, I would’ve said something insane like living in New York City and singing professionally, touring all around the world.    Let’s just say I’ve never lived in NYC for longer than two months, I’ve only been involved with two opera productions professionally within Charlotte, I’m happily married to my college sweetheart, and I live in the suburbs with two insane cats.  Just a little different than touring the world, right? Never in a million years did I think I’d be so lucky as to own this business, and experience pure love and joy every weekend of the year.  And, I could not be happier! I know now that this is the life I’ve always wanted, and it does make me laugh thinking about my former plans.

In 2013, I took that leap I mentioned earlier and quit my real job in communications to go full-time with weddings and run The Graceful Host to its fullest potential.  It was scary - but a good scary. I am excited to wake up every day and do something that I’m so incredibly passionate about. But, enough about all of that - let's get to the pretty stuff!

Would you take a look at all the beautiful brides and handsome grooms we've worked with over the past year. I love them all so dearly! It's been such an honor to be a part of your wedding planning!

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In between weddings, I got a call from Charlotte Wedding Magazine asking if I’d like to participate in an inspiration shoot for the Summer 2013 issue by designing a fiesta-inspired wedding.  I was floored to have received the call and was (still am!) so incredibly honored by the opportunity.  This was an absolute dream come true for me!  I had about three weeks to pull together the design and secure a vendor team for the shoot. It’s challenges like this that are so exhilarating! I had a blast working with the Charlotte Wedding Magazine team and all the vendors involved with the shoot.  My design and inspiration was brought to life before my eyes and captured by some incredibly talented photographers. It felt so great to come up with concepts that are different from the traditional wedding ideas, and I loved the opportunity to show brides how to use color – especially bold colors. (See the full blog post!)

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I still get so excited to see my couples grace the pages of magazine and wedding blogs! And, we had a quite a few features and published weddings this year - from Southern Weddings to Style Me Pretty to The Knot: North Carolina.

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I have to thank each of the amazing couples I've had the opportunity to work with for putting your faith and trust in me to produce your dream wedding. Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart! I am so honored to know you and to call you a friend.  And to each of the incredibly talented vendors that I've had the pleasure of working with over the past year - THANK YOU!  Thank you for your hard work, dedication, passion and amazing service to each of these brides and grooms.  It truly does take a village to create a flawless event, and I am so grateful for you!  Over the past year, I've had the chance to get to know more individuals in the Charlotte Wedding Industry - and, ya'll, there are A LOT of amazingly talented vendors in our little city.  I am so grateful for the opportunity to learn from each of you, and to get to know you better.

All in all, 2013 was a year I'll never forget.  It was a year full of growth - both professionally and personally. I cannot wait for 2014 and all the excitement that is sure to follow! I am 110% along for the ride - and I am just loving the journey!

XO,
A.

Inspiration: All That Glitters

There's something about glitter and sequins that just makes a girl feel special, you know?  I think it goes back to iconic characters like Dorothy from The Wizard Of Oz and her gorgeous ruby red glittery shoes.  Lately, I've been drawn to sequin-adorned anything!  From my usual browsing of Pintrest, I came across this amazing dress from Free People, and I was instantly flooded with snapshots full of glittery party details.  This adorable dress is the source of todays glitzy wedding inspiration. When it comes to wedding design, using a little sparkle and shine can go a long way.  Gone are the days when glittery details were solely reserved for holiday and New Years Eve parties.  No ma'am!  We can see a little shimmer in linens, paper goods, glassware, cake design, bar accessories, bridesmaids dresses, and of course, wedding shoes year round.  For the girl that wants to be truly dazzling on her wedding day, this is the inspiration for you!

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XO,

A.

Merry Christmas from The Graceful Host

Christmas is a special time of year for family and friends. I love hearing stories of generosity between strangers and witnessing kindness among all the hussle of the holiday season. As many of you know, I'm originally from New Orleans and my husband is from Ohio. So, our Christmas consists of a lot of travel! It was definitely an adjustment on our part to wake up in a hotel room and then hop on a plane on Christmas morning, rather than sleeping in our own comfy bed and coming downstairs to breakfast, seeing if Santa came to visit. Some days it's overwhelming preparing to leave home and experience whirlwind holiday travel. But, then I remember that Christmas is about family and I think about how fortunate I am to be able to travel, and to see grandparents, aunts and uncles, in-laws, cousins, and friends that I rarely get to see. I remember that I am blessed to live this life and to have two amazing families to visit. Just a little side story: One of my favorite traditions is sending a Christmas card. As a kid it was always very annoying dressing up in matching outfits and smiling with my brother until my mom got the "perfect" shot. Trust me, it took a few dozen ... rolls of film. But, I really love looking back to see how we've grown as a family. Once I was going to have a family of my own, I started bugging my then fiancé, Todd, to let me put together a Christmas card, but he thought we should wait until we were actually married to send out a card together. (Men!) You better believe I started designing our first Christmas card as Mr. & Mrs. as soon as I saw the first advertisement come through my inbox! Of course, for our first Christmas there were many photos to choose from since it was such a big year. But, for our second Christmas card, I ran into some troubles. It seems, without even realizing, we had not taken a single photo together since our honeymoon in June 2012! Fail. This year, I didn't have time to get photos taken, even though I have so many incredibly talented photographers at my fingertips. Double fail. So, I used a photo from our honeymoon in Cabo. Which, ironically, we took ourselves! I had to send out a Christmas card even though I didn't have the perfect photo because traditions are so incredibly important to me. Please excuse the old, very unprofessional photo! But, the sentiment holds true.

Our 2013 Christmas Card:

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And, I wanted to share just a few photos from my trip home to New Orleans for the holidays! My dad and brother refused to have their photos taken so there are some important people missing, but oh well. Also not pictured, are the annual Christmas Eve trips to the casino on Canal Street. It must be a lucky time of year because Todd walked away with $310 and my brother with over $500!

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Merry Christmas 2013

The nature of wedding planning is so intimate, and my brides and grooms are like family to me! I want to extend a big cheery Merry Christmas to you and yours. And to all of my 2013 brides - I hope you enjoy an amazing first Christmas together as Mr. and Mrs.! I wish you joy and happiness this holiday season. I hope your days are full of family and friends! Cheers, from my little family - Ashley, Todd, and Lucy (my adorable furry assistant) pictured below.

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XO, A.

Inspiration: A Touch of Modern + Vintage Glamour

With so many gorgeous weddings to look forward to in 2014, we've been busy, busy, busy creating a lot of beauty.  And, this wedding design is definitely one of my favorites! I met Whitley over the summer, and although she lives in St. Louis with her fiancé, we managed to nail down all her wedding details  and vendors within 4 months! This bride was determined to be done with wedding planning by the holidays. Well, mission accomplished!  I've had so much fun working with Whitley - I can't believe the big day will be here in 3 short months!

For her March wedding at Brakefield at Riverwalk, we're mixing elements of modern and vintage glamour.  Crystal adorned centerpieces, lush ivory floral, bold silver and charcoal textures will give our bride and groom the luxe and romantic wedding they've been dreaming of.  Oh, and her wedding dress - holy moly!!  I cannot wait to see this gorgeous wedding unfold!  Until then, I want to share some of our inspiration photos. Enjoy all the pretty!

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Glamorous Silver, Grey and Ivory Wedding Inspiration

XO, A.

Inspiration: Navy, White + Green

You may remember this wonderful couple from their engagement session over the summer with Lauren Rosenau Photography. Katie & Eric are set to wed next April at the Mint Museum Uptown - and, I seriously cannot wait to see these two get married!  Our first consult was actually one year from today. (I swear I'm not a creepy stalker ... I'm just a good note taker! And I was reading some pervious notes last week, when I realized our "one year anniversary" is today!)  From that very first meeting, we just clicked.  This post is starting to sound like I'm in love with these two - and, you'd be totally right to make that assumption. This girl is just so amazing, and we've had an absolutely blast planning for her wedding.  I thought today would be just perfect for sharing their wedding design inspiration. Katie can only be described as a Kate Spade bride. She loves clean lines, effortless style and chic patterns in all the right places.  With a color palette of navy blue, ivory and kelly green, I think even Kate herself would love what we've come up with.  I love the use of elements like geometric patterns and architecturally-inspired flowers mixed with clean and simple lines.  Brides often ask about mixing themes - and I say why not?!  I encourage taking elements or inspiration from a theme and, in some cases, altering it a bit to fit into a design plan in a cohesive way.  For this wedding design, we've taken a pretty traditional color palette and classic ideas but we infused a little modern flare in the execution through pops of graphic patterns and fun textures.  I always appreciate brides that are willing to take a few steps outside the box, and stretch their design comfort level to reach a whole new level of "wow".  I cannot wait to see this wedding unfold!  Take a peek at our inspiration, and let me know you what you think.

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XO, A.

Inspiration: Ivory + Blush

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There is nothing more romantic than a sweet, soft, timeless color palette like ivory and blush, with some metallic touches of course.  Ya'll know how much I just love love love metallic!  But, oh my goodness, I cannot wait for Keely and Hill's gorgeous Southern wedding at Boxwood Estate next May!!  We've wrapped up some design plans recently - and I just couldn't wait to share!  I'm in love with Keely's amazing simplistic, yet glamorous style.  Take a peek at a few of our inspiration photos for the big day!

XO, A.